Codependency And Complex Trauma 5 – Adaptations and Limitations

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I guess a lot of people will be living alone. Fixing limitations cannot be done on your own and who can afford the professional help? We're in a society that doesn't value mental health and inner healing. All kinds of organized funding for physical illness (examples: cancer, cystic fibrosis, etc) none for mental health. So yes, b people with matching limitations will connect if only to have someone who can relate to your pain. If people who are supposed to be well adjusted don't care, where can you reach out but to those who get it without passing judgement? So much of this information does make sense. It is helpful to understand why we're wounded. I'm not saying this is useless. But asking people to self-correct and self-heal without support is leading to self-defeat. It's not logical to ask them this anymore then it is to ask someone who has cancer to self-heal now that they understand how they possibly got it.
The good intentions are there, the information is laid out on the table to become fully aware. Now what?

That is why I don't talk to my mother about anything…the abuse is always my fault ….somehow.

The insight in these talks is truly incredible. I have not encountered such a complete understanding of this topic anywhere else, and I've been searching for 21 years. Thank you Tim.

When l was just starting 8th grade, on the way home from a Friday night Football game, a gang of Jocks attacked and Sexually Assaulted me! l didn't tell my parents. l didn't tell anyone but my best friend. She was just on other side of the house with a bunch of other people, talking loud. Everytime l tried to scream, they poured Beer in my mouth (l was not drinking!). She didn't believe me!! After that, those Guys went to school and bragged about it!!! l was labeled a Slut and spent the rest of H.S. avoiding Social Situations and reality by "checking out!" l was already being beaten and emotionally abused at Home by my Narcissistic Dad. l married young, to a Narcissist who financially abused me (and my children!). l believe he wanted me to kill myself while we were married! Better to be Widowed than Divorced and that way he could keep even more of the money he embezzled during our 20 years of Marriage! it's impossible to forgive til he makes it right to the best of his abilities…lve never really asked for much. But l'm tired…and l really need his help and he knows its the Right thing to do!!! Right?!? God help me…us!!!!!